THBOLTR

When T Swift dropped The Bolter, it resonated with me. And I mean, it resonated in a way that no other song has ever resonated with me. She was describing me for sure. She was peeking through my windows. She had the tape recorder hidden in the dresser drawers. She was listening. Had to be! I resonated with it so much I even put it on my license plate.

THBOLTR.
The girl who will jump in with you, dive in with you, make you love her and then leave at the first red flag. It doesn’t have to be a red flag. It could be orange, a little yellow. It doesn’t matter. She’s still going to leave.

I’m an Aries queen, so maybe it’s an Aries thing. We love our space. Sure we can be a little extroverted and social when we need to be, but at the end of the day, we prefer to be alone. And I reached a place where it didn’t matter who left my life. Friends, family, partners… if you weren’t adding value, I was good on you. And if you wanted to leave, go ahead; who am I to stop you?

People warned me I’d be lonely. They still warn me. And maybe I will be. I’m a single mother. I’m running a household by myself. I have so many things going on. I’m ambitious. I’m a hustler. I get things done. Ms. Make It Happen if you will. I genuinely don’t have the time or the energy to run through a maze for someone else.

I might not leave at the very first red flag, but nine times out of ten, I’m gone at the second. And if I don’t bolt, understand that I’m no longer taking you seriously. I bolt with intention. I bolt because you’re not enough. I bolt because this connection is no longer beneficial for you or for me.

Yes, I’m The Bolter. Yes, I have the best stories. But understand, I don’t bolt to hurt you. I bolt because I need to.